Author: Naomi Liz

Learning another language is a life goal for many travelers. For me, studying Spanish has become a lifelong quest–the next level always feeling a bit out of reach. Aside from the challenge of not having people to practice Spanish conversation with, learning a language as an adult comes with a lot of frustrating moments. Like realizing that the only Spanish you remember from high school–“My shirt is blue.”–is decidedly not going to help you figure out where this bus is headed. Or like the time an exasperated 5-year-old proclaims, “You don’t know ANY Spanish!” To which the only reply you can think of is: “Well…you don’t know any ENGLISH.”

There are lots of programs and apps designed to help you study, but nothing beats real world practice by doing a homestay. I get it, though… the thought of living in someone else’s home in a foreign country can be intimidating.

A week before I left for my study abroad semester in Costa Rica, I totally panicked. Whenever I went to the store or watched TV, I thought about how everything would soon be in Spanish. Like restaurant menus. Announcements at the airport. Directions on laundry detergent. (Would I need directions on laundry detergent?)

Immersion in another language and culture became overwhelming when I thought about the number of words I was surrounded with on a daily basis. In the end, that semester abroad brought tears, laughter, great conversations, exhaustion, and deep relationships. Most of all, it taught me that language has the power to connect us in deep and meaningful ways when we travel.

Here are a few reasons why a homestay is the perfect option to help you learn a language, experience a new culture, and travel more responsibly.

Make friends who live there

Living with locals naturally brings about deeper relationships than you’d have just interacting with people on the street. You have the opportunity to genuinely become friends–family, even–with people who call this place home. Not only does this enrich your travel experience, but you’ll also have people you can keep in touch with and perhaps even visit on your next trip there.

Travel deeper and live like a local

While I was studying abroad in Costa Rica, my host mom carefully showed me how to navigate the bus system during my first week there. She reminded me every morning to take my umbrella, and she worried about me whenever I got home late, as any mom would.

My host dad took me to the market for groceries, to the voting booth on election day, and to a parade on Independence Day. In Cuba, I fought my way onto a guagua (bus), sat on the malecón at sunset, and had a rooftop salsa party with Cuban friends from my host community.

But although I know it would take more than a few months to really know what it’s like to live there, homestays have given me a glimpse into the daily lives, routines, family dynamics, and cultural values of people who call those places home. Taking the time to travel slowly helps us experience daily life in a way that we never would by staying cocooned in a hotel room.

Get the inside scoop on the best things to do

You know all those places in your hometown that you think are the best? Ever noticed that they’re not packed with tourists? Locals always know the best spots to visit and which places are just tourist traps. Doing a homestay with a local lets you in on those off-the-beaten-path spots.

Gain a new perspective

Sharing a meal and going about daily life are the best ways to get to know people and their culture. This kind of interaction invites conversation and allows you to dig deeper than surface-level topics. One of my favorite quotes, paraphrased from Marcel Proust, sums up what getting to know locals has taught me: “The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.” The perspectives I’ve gained from living with people have transformed how I see the world.

Travel more responsibly

Two main tenets of responsible travel are engaging with culture in a respectful way and supporting the local economy. Living with a local helps you become more culturally sensitive, and you’ll also be supporting your host with additional income.

Learn a language better

Most of us have heard that immersion is the best way to learn a language. We look at kids who move to another country and get plopped down into a classroom with everyone speaking a different language. They learn so fast! And nobody teaches them about verbs and nouns!

Linguists and psychologists have found that two things are essential for language learning:

1. You need to take action and USE the language in real life situations.
2. You can’t learn a language without other people. There are a few examples that you might have heard about in a Psychology 101 class that show this in both heartbreaking and fascinating ways: from children who grew up in the wild and were never able to learn complex language, to the invention of an entirely new language when deaf children in Nicaragua were taken out of isolation and brought together in a school that was just for deaf children. Language learning happens in the context of relationships and human interaction.

So…immersion seems like the best way to learn, right? Sort of. Language immersion works well for children, but most adults don’t learn language best simply by being immersed without having any background in the language. Adults need a combination of real world practice and language instruction.

Learn regional slang and vocabulary

If you’ve tried to learn Spanish and have visited more than one Spanish-speaking country, it’s likely that you’ve run into some frustrations. You’re not alone–a few years ago, a couple of guys who had traveled all over Latin America wrote a whole song about how hard it is to learn Spanish. Some words are innocent in one country and offensive in another. Even within the United States, slang and vocabulary vary wildly from region to region. Having a local who can help you understand those everyday phrases (and hopefully prevent you from accidentally cursing someone out) helps you in ways that textbooks will never be able to.

Get corrected

When you’re traveling cross-culturally, people in the host culture may not always be willing to correct you when you make an error or they don’t understand you. It might be highly offensive in their culture to correct a stranger’s grammar. But by doing a homestay, you’ll have someone who is comfortable and patient enough to teach you.

There are plenty of reasons to choose a homestay when you travel abroad. While staying in a hostel or hotel might feel less intimidating or challenging, it’s the slow road to learning another language. Living with a local lets you save money, experience a culture more deeply, and learn along the way.

This is a guest post contribution from our buddy Naomi Liz at Roaming the Americas, a blog full of helpful responsible travel tips. For a full bio and links to her social media page please refer to the bottom of the page. 

Being culturally sensitive is an important part of being a responsible traveler and discovering the world in a meaningful way. But it doesn’t happen overnight and as you travel, you realize that there’s always more to learn and reflect on.

But hold up…that sounds like hard work! Isn’t traveling supposed to be fun?

Well, yes—there are definitely moments during travel that should be pure fun. Whether you’re sitting on a beach in the Philippines drinking cocktails or whitewater rafting through canyons, these are the moments that make you sit back and realize just how incredible life on the road is.

Now don’t worry, we’re not about to take all that away from you. Culturally sensitive travel isn’t about turning travel into a boring school field trip. It’s the opposite, really. Being culturally sensitive allows you to experience deep,  authentic moments with the people that you meet on the road.In the end, it enriches your travels and turns those moments into lifelong memories.

Here are a few tips to help you be a more culturally sensitive traveler…

Learn About the Destination You’re Traveling To

From the history to the basics about culture, being curious about things beyond the “top 10 places to visit” will give you a great foundation for being more culturally sensitive. And this curiosity isn’t limited to before your trip—being informed gives you interesting and relevant things to talk about with locals, and it shows them you care about more than just checking places off your bucket list.

Guidebooks often have basic information and are a good starting place. Beyond that, you can look for fictional TV shows or books set in the location you’re traveling to, read stories from the local newspaper, and check out informative podcasts or documentaries about its history or culture.

Learn Some of the Local Language

I’ll keep it real with you—I’m a self-proclaimed language nerd, and I know not everyone shares this passion. But this doesn’t mean you have to dust off your college grammar books and make flashcards (although you definitely can). Learning at least some of the local language provides opportunities to build relationships that you’d never have without it. It shows people that you care enough about their culture and getting to know them that you’ve put in some effort to speak to them in their own language. As Nelson Mandela said, ““If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart.”

Heading to Latin America? Check out our article on How to Choose a Spanish School That’s Right For You

Brush up on Hand Gestures

If learning a language can help you build relationships, hand gestures offer the wonderful opportunity of completely offending people. The way we speak with our hands is so second nature, and it’s hard to be mindful of the gestures we use. A simple “come here” signal that is used in the United States has—ahem—connotations in Latin America, and pointing with your index finger is rude.

Instead, people point with their lips and do a sort of wave towards the ground to motion for someone to “come here.” There are countless other examples from around the world of hand gestures that are harmless in one country and offensive in another. Take a few minutes to read up on what hand gestures are positive, neutral, or offensive in the places you’ll be traveling.

Dress Appropriately

While you might stand out as a foreigner based on your physical characteristics or language differences, the way you dress is something you have complete control over. People have different views on how far you should take this—especially for women traveling in religiously conservative cultures. The way I dress is one cultural barrier that I have the power to bridge by making some simple changes.

I don’t want my clothes to scream “American” or for that to be the first thing someone notices about me, and I also don’t want to offend my hosts. Take time to research how locals dress (from head to toe) in various situations—for meetings, work, the beach, and cultural or religious events. The more like a local you dress, the less you’ll stand out.

Observe Locals

I once heard a story about a guy who wanted to fit into Guatemalan culture better, so he sat on a street corner and just observed the local men for several days. He looked at how they were dressed, how they carried themselves, and how they interacted. While you don’t necessarily need to spend days sitting on a street corner, take time to people watch during your trip—maybe while you’re sitting at a park, eating at a restaurant, or enjoying a morning coffee at a neighborhood café.

How do people greet each other? How close do they stand when talking? What are their facial expressions and body language like? How loudly do they speak? Taking clues from the locals on how to behave is a fantastic start to understanding and respecting the culture.

Dig Below the Surface

Taking time to observe some outward expressions of cultural norms—food, language, dress, personal space—is a great way to help you become more culturally sensitive, but it’s those invisible elements of culture that can be really hard to grasp. What qualifies as rude? Or respectful? How is timeliness viewed?

These are things that aren’t always expressed outwardly, but they’re deeply embedded in our culture. They show up in our assumptions and are hidden within our everyday decisions. Learning about these invisible elements of culture definitely takes things beyond the basics, but it’s an important part of being a culturally-sensitive traveler.

For extra credit points, a good book for understanding culture is Foreign to Familiar by Sarah A. Lanier.

People Before Pictures

I’m both an introvert and a photographer, so my natural inclination toward taking travel photos is to be discreet and not interact with anyone. You know—the drive-by sniper method (apologies for using photography jargon, but that’s the official term). But I’ve learned to push past my fear of photographing strangers, and I’ve discovered incredible richness in forming a personal connection with someone before just snapping away.

I think there’s a place for street life photography as well, and forming personal connections isn’t always possible, but travel photography should always be approached from a place of respect. My mantra is: People before pictures. Be willing to miss “the shot” if it feels intrusive or exploitative.

Getting a little more practical, another element of this is to learn about local customs and beliefs, and make sure you’re not taking a photograph when it would be disrespectful (such as at a religious site). When in doubt, ask a trusted friend or guide who is comfortable enough to tell you “no.”

Take Time to Reflect

Thoughtfully processing through your experiences—the good and the bad—is such an important part of growing in your cultural sensitivity. If you make a good friend from the place you’re visiting, ask them questions when you don’t understand something, and give them permission to correct you or share cultural insights.

Take time to write in a journal. I find that free writing about all my questions and assumptions helps me think more deeply and often leads to epiphanies about myself and where I’m traveling. Memories tend to morph and fade over time, but having a written record keeps those memories accurate. If you’re traveling with someone who shares your cultural background, take time to discuss the things you’re observing and questions you have.

And don’t neglect the continual process of reflection after you’ve returned home—it’s just as important. So often we return home and jump right back into our lives, putting a full stop at the end of our trip. Cross-cultural travel is a continual journey, and we should be open to learning from our past experiences throughout our lives.

Lastly, Cut Yourself Some Slack.

I can’t tell you how many face-palm worthy moments I’ve had while traveling. There have been so many times when I’ve fumbled over language or done something and later thought, “I’m such an American.” While it’s important to reflect on those things, remember that being culturally sensitive isn’t a checklist that you’ll be graded on.

You’re going to make mistakes, and people might misinterpret your words or actions, but the beauty and richness of putting yourself out there in order to form relationships far outweighs those crawl-into-a-hole moments.

So don’t stress yourself out and constantly worry about making a faux pas. Aim to be respectful, but don’t get hung up on the inevitable mistakes. Being a culturally sensitive traveler doesn’t mean you’re not going to make any cultural blunders—it just means you’re open to a process of continual learning and reflection.

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